6 Simple Ideas to Banish Boring Sex
1. MASTURBATE
Not only will masturbation amp up your “wanna do it” mojo, it’s also an amazing self-discovery tool.
Experiment with your body. Try touching yourself in new ways. You’ll probably be surprised- finding new spots that feel kinda awesome, different sensations and updated variations to what turns you on…oh, that’s some pretty great shit right there.
Make a date with yourself and do some pleasure-based research.
2. COMMUNICATE
Talking about sex is healthy (and hot).
It lets you (and your partner) know a new thing or twenty about each of your likes/desires- and even the opposite – things that aren’t necessarily revving you up.
These conversations make for great foreplay.
Talking about sex, well, it’s just sexy. And. it gets the brain (your largest sex organ!) juices flowing!
3. CHANGE IT UP
If you’re able to do a play-by-play of how the sex goes just about every time you do it then it’s definitely time to switch it up!
Mix up that boring “A-Z, touch me there, flip, rinse, repeat” sex. Try a new position. Do it at a different time of the day. Move away from the bed and into the laundry room (on the machine… on the spin cycle…!).
Variety is the spice of (your totally amazing sex) life!
4. BRING A LITTLE ROLE/FANTASY PLAY INTO THE MIX
We’re taking it back to #2 and communication (remember, YOUR BRAIN IS YOUR LARGEST SEX ORGAN)!
Talk with your partner about your fantasies, what turns you both on. Add a little of those to your play and voila’! you’ve got some steamy role play action happenin’!
Role/Fantasy play could be as mild as reliving a past sexy experience to as wild as…. well, as long as you both think it could be kinda hot, I say GO FOR IT!
5. INCORPORATE A SEX TOY
Despite popular belief, sex toys aren’t just for solo play.
Show them how you masturbate with your toy, let them explore your body with it, bring it to the main event…
Since about 75-ish +/- % of female bodies need some form of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, a vibe could be the perfect accompaniment on your quest for better sex!
If I was ever stranded on an island and could only bring along one vibrator, the Tango, without a doubt, would be the one. Read my review of the Tango here.
6. PLEASE GET THE F* OUT OF YOUR HEAD
This one’s such a biggy- When you cloud your brain with everything-but-the-present thoughts it’s pretty damn difficult to enjoy what’s happening right now.
Of course the sex is boring. You’re too busy thinking about everything EXCEPT all the good stuff that’s happening right in front of you that you could totally be enjoying!
It might sound cliche’, but start being more mindful in the sack and you’ll have better sex.
Get creative, think outside the box, and most importantly, HAVE FUN! Sex is healthy, it relieves stress, it brings partners together… IT’S JUST PLAIN GOOD!
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