Enjoy your relationship for what it is. On the surface, he’s pleasant, and obviously very attractive. He will do nice things for you—thoughtful gifts, nice restaurants, vacations, etc. He has a compelling way about talking about the future soon after you get to know him. “One day, we’ll have a little cottage in the hills.” This will lull you into a false sense of security, and you’ll think that it’s headed somewhere—that you’re “the one”.
But there are a string of “the ones” who have heard the exact same thing. He has a schtick. In his defense, I don’t think that he intentionally does this to mess with women’s heads; he’s not evil. I do believe, however, that his upbringing was such that he didn’t learn to respect women as people and fellow human beings with distinct wants and needs. All women are the same to him, none of us unique. So while his compassion chip isn’t missing, it’s definitely in a state of malfunction.
He is not marriage material—he gets disillusioned too easily for stupidly superficial reasons. Think of him as the “fun” boyfriend, the Player Lite. He likes to do fun things. He likes it when things are fun. Fun. You’ll hear that word a lot. Beware of trying to communicate your needs, and be wary of becoming emotionally vulnerable in front of him. He is not good in a crisis. He’ll be there, but he won’t like being there. If you have a problem or crisis, it’s best not to share that with him, because he will perceive you as a burden.
Don’t get too emotionally invested, and don’t expect a happy-ever-after. Keep it simple and light, and adjust your expectations. He is an ideal man for a short-term romance. But I would suggest keeping yourself open to other options. Trust me, there are far better men out there if you’re looking for a serious life partner.
(Almost) Everyone has been in a relationship. And there’s a 50/50 chance that relationship will end. So, what tips do you have for the next person to fall for your ex’s charms?
Relationships end for all kinds of different reasons. One leaves another for someone better. Someone ends up having to move away. Or, the two are just simply not meant to be together. So when it comes to your previous relationships – what tips would you give or others when dating that person?
Maybe its to stay as far away from that psycho as possible! Or, that person should hold on to your ex as long as possible. (Maybe YOU made the mistake of letting that person go!) Either way, tell me what piece of advice you’d give when dating your ex.
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